Elders in Our Home: The Wealth of Insight, Tranquillity and Stability

Qysar Ul Islam Shah

 

"Listen to your elders' advice. Not because they are always right, but because they have more experience of being wrong." – Melchor Lim

 

Undoubtedly, growing old can be burdensome. It comes with worries, particularly regarding the common age-related ailments that affect our bodies. Those who reach this stage of life may face uneasiness, weakness, fragility, fatigue, and dizziness, things they hadn't anticipated. Yet, elderly people are blessings; they are like treasures within a family. Their presence adds charm and provides guidance on how to navigate life. Their wealth of experience undoubtedly paves the way for success and equips us to confront life's challenges. They are our ideal mentors. With their years of experience, they can assess situations and offer valuable advice. They possess the wisdom to resolve family issues amicably.

 

It is evident that our elders are wiser and more knowledgeable than us; they are our assets. Allow me to share a story that illustrates this point: "The Mountain That Ate The People," a Japanese folk tale about a feudal lord and the consequences of his decree on his people. This story underscores the invaluable role of elderly individuals in our lives. The Japanese lord issued an order stating that those over the age of sixty-one were useless and should be abandoned on a dangerous mountain near the city. He enforced this decree, and those who disobeyed faced severe punishment. Many elderly individuals suffered at the hands of their own families to comply with this cruel order. One day, a farmer, upon reaching the age of sixty-one, was about to take his mother to the mountain. However, as they climbed, the mother broke twigs and left a trail for her son to follow and find his way back home. This act changed the farmer's perspective, and he secretly returned his mother home, defying the decree. Several years later, the feudal lord was defeated by a neighboring overlord and begged for mercy for his people. The overlord proposed a riddle as a condition for mercy, which the feudal lord failed to solve. The feudal lord proclaimed that whoever could answer the riddle would be rewarded handsomely. The poor farmer's mother knew the answer and saved countless lives in her country.

 

Having an elderly person in your family is like having a living treasure. Their presence should be cherished, and their extraordinary experience can be invaluable in shaping the future. Throughout history, older individuals were always respected in communities. In ancient times, magicians and wise men were often elders because they possessed the wisdom that comes from experience and could provide valuable guidance to the next generation. When elders are respected and honored, they offer blessings and prayers that can significantly aid in achieving our goals. Always speak to them with kind words and a gentle tone of voice. From an Islamic perspective, the Quran emphasizes treating elders and parents with goodness, especially in their old age.

 

Islam places a significant responsibility on caring for the elderly. With their life experience, they hold immense knowledge of the past and can guide us in decision-making. The time spent with my elders is often the best part of my day. It is said that when undertaking significant endeavors, seeking blessings from elders is essential. Elders are like spiritual fathers. Unfortunately, many of our elderly relatives may struggle with health issues, loneliness, and disconnection from others. It is essential to keep them in our thoughts and prayers. Each wrinkle on their face tells the story of a decade. The mistreatment of elders in some cases is a disturbing trend that should shock our conscience. Their presence and advice resonate in our minds long after they have left this temporary world. Families where an elder wakes up early and recites verses from the Holy Quran are indeed blessed. We pray that the shadow of our elders continues to guide us.

 

In today's fast-paced world, the significance of our elderly is sometimes overlooked or forgotten. The hustle and bustle of modern life can make it challenging to find time for our older family members. However, as we increase our word count, let's delve deeper into why their presence and wisdom are invaluable.

 

The elders in our families are repositories of life's lessons. They have weathered the storms of youth, navigated the challenges of adulthood, and now stand as living testaments to resilience and perseverance. Their stories are not just narratives of the past but also guideposts for the future. When we listen to their tales of triumphs and tribulations, we gain insights into life's complexities that textbooks and lectures cannot provide. These narratives are more than just stories; they are history lessons from the school of life itself.

 

Furthermore, elders provide a sense of stability and continuity in a rapidly changing world. In a society where traditions are often discarded in the pursuit of progress, our elderly family members serve as anchors to our cultural heritage. They carry with them traditions, customs, and values that have been passed down through generations. Their presence ensures that we do not lose sight of our roots and that we remain connected to the rich tapestry of our cultural heritage.

 

Elders also contribute to the emotional well-being of a family. Their calming presence and unconditional love create a sense of security and belonging. In times of hardship or uncertainty, their wisdom and reassurance can provide solace and strength. They are often the glue that holds families together, offering guidance during conflicts and acting as mediators during disputes.

 

As we continue to reflect on the importance of elders, it's crucial to acknowledge the responsibilities that come with caring for them. Aging can bring physical and mental challenges, and it is our duty to ensure that our elderly family members receive the care and support they need. This care extends beyond physical assistance to emotional companionship and genuine respect for their autonomy.

 

In conclusion, the elderly members of our families are not merely individuals who have aged; they are reservoirs of wisdom, stability, and love. Their presence enriches our lives in ways that are immeasurable. Let us cherish and celebrate them, for they are the living embodiments of our shared history and the guiding stars of our future.

 

 

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